Sometimes you can do everything right... but still have big bumps in the road.

12/4/2012

WOW... my daughter is really teaching me (i think Debbie has set me up). In my last blog i mentioned that DD had a few obstacles to overcome. She learned to roll which caused her to be very frustrated at night and at naps while trying to master this new skill. She loved to sleep with her face smothered in the mattress. LOVELY!! Thats where my sleeplessness started. I kept checking on her because ... i was worried. Rightfully so. I was up hourly and many times had to go move her head to the side. I didnt flip her, that would have been pointless because she needed to figure this out. Second obstacle.. TEETHING. ESH! what a grump! I am truly a believer in amber. My DS has had a necklace on forever. DD has had hers on since 3 mos but its not touching her. Ive stated before and i will again. SHES A DRAMATIC DIVA!. . . Well.. what does all this mean? This means a big sleep hiccup in our home. Ive troubleshooted all that i could. Checked the room temp, double checked her schedule, offered pain relief both homeopathic and tyl/advil, picked Debbie's brain apart, and what does it come down to? Im doing everything right. I have to wait this out. SERIOUSLY... i had a big sigh in thinking how hard we worked to get to here and everything is right, she just needs some time. She is having great naps, but is waking overnight. It changed over a few weeks though which made it even more confusing. She was originally waking because of her rolling skill, then i think it was teething. Then it changed some more and tricked me. I thought she was still having trouble sleeping on her tummy or teething but it was one obstacle blending into another. She's not staying awake long enough for me to have to check on her, but it ranges. Some nights its 1 wake her worst night was 5 wakes. Only one night was her wake longer then 20 min. When a client would tell me that their child was up longer then 20 i would tell them "make sure they are eating enough in the day". So just as i thought i was comfortable in my supply, and that wasn't the issue but all these other things were, i decided to go on a milk boosting marathon. Bring on the water, pumping and fenugreek. I smell like maple syrup (mmmm...) so it must be working.

I have had a few clients where they have had these obstacles, i have yet to see a blend of 3 but leave that up to my DD. Every baby is different (mine is for sure), and as long as i don't change how i react to things i know she will adapt and not be confused. I can now say "i've been there, i've done that" Here's the thing.... I may be a trainer but right now, while doing the training myself, i'm a mom. Even as a trainer i need my reassurance sometimes. My clients have me.. I have Debbie. (SO SO THANKFUL for Debbie)

Email sent to Debbie from myself
"I know we talked. I know I can't do anything. But ur my person and I'm know i shouldn't be but im frustrated. More cause we worked SO HARD. she should be sleeping. She's never woken this much. Even at birth. I've double and triple checked everything. I'll top her up more today after feeds. Her naps are perfect. Very different being on this end the second time around. Glad i have you!!"

Email back to me from Debbie
"I understand how frustrated you are but I can't stress enough that those wakes are normal. As she gets older they will shorten and seem like they r gone. She's not a newborn anymore, she's a baby. This means more alert and aware. Nothing u can do to minimize this other then what u have done. Now u need time Makes it worse cause ur a light sleeper. Please just hang in. You know less then 20 is fine. "

I thought long and hard before posting this as i didn't want people to think "huh, it doesn't work" Thats not the case at ALL!. Our system works, this just proves that sometimes you can do everything right and things can still appear to go wrong. We can think its not going to work or WE are doing something wrong.... but sometimes our babies are just buggers. Plain and Simple. Just give it time.

Its been 3 days since the above email. Im confident she had some great feeds, LOVES to sleep on her tummy now (face to the side), teething we are now going the homeopathic route and last night and she did fantastic. Woke once for a few minutes and back to sleep till her wake up time in the morning. Today same thing. Longer feeds and great naps. Lil trickster is keeping me on my toes. Im HOPING that the light at the end of the LONG tunnel is getting brighter. Im off to bed and hope not to hear from my lil Diva till the morning... Fingers crossed.