Many of us would love to keep our children babies forever. It’s a little bittersweet to watch our children grow from newborns to babies and then to toddlers. Although we try to cuddle them a bit more and breastfeed a little longer, the inevitable will still come that your toddler will need some help with those unavoidable changes and transitions.
If you are considering transitioning your toddler from his crib into a bed there are a few things to consider. Unfortunately, there isn’t a magic age, as children’s mentality and understanding develop differently, however we do discourage moving your toddler into a bed until at least 2 years of age. When your toddler begins to understand and communicate with you, this is a good indication that he is ready for a bed and the freedom that comes with it. If you can explain to your toddler that he needs to stay in his bed for sleeps, it will make the transition much smoother. I also suggest that parents try to keep the same room that the toddler has been in all along. Often parents will transition a child out of his room and into a spare room with a whole new look because a new baby is coming and they need the nursery. However, children can often struggle with such a big change. Keeping the toddler in his current room and only making the change of introducing the bed to start will be the best option. It’s also important to make sure that parents are keeping safety in mind. Now that the toddler will have the freedom of getting out of his bed without supervision, it’s important that the entire room is safety proofed. Keeping the bed away from windows, securing all furniture to the walls, make sure there are no small or dangerous objects that the child can reach and even adding a gate at the door and door handle locks on the closet. Keeping your child in his room and safe must be a priority. Introducing the Gro Clock and ensuring there is a low watt nightlight will help you toddler feel safe and understand when he can come out of his bed.
Be sure that you have prepared your toddlers room for the change and also be sure to prepare your toddler. Make sure to talk about the transition for about a week prior to moving him into the new bed. Encourage him that this is a great change by telling him he is a big boy and mommy and daddy are so proud of him. Include him in the transition by letting him pick a new blanket and toy that he can sleep with and also teach him about the meaning of the Gro Clock and how it works. Try to continue the same bedtime routine that he has always had and limit the length of time you spend in the room once you have completed his routine.
Although we can try to prepare our toddler and ourselves for this transition, be prepared that there may be some crying and frustration with the first few nights in his new bed. But rest assured that consistency and reassurance will help him quickly love his new
There are many things that can cause a
baby’s sleep regression. From teething to sickness to various milestones like
your baby learning that he can suck on his toes. A baby’s world is so incredible! Can you imagine seeing everything in our world for the first time. It’s like visiting a new country and being so excited to do and learn everything you can. You don’t know how much time you have to do it and you don’t know if
you will be able to do it again. This is the same way a baby feels when they learn to pull to a crawl position, suck on their toes or cruise around their crib. They will excessively do this new skill over and over again and most often in their crib at nap or bedtime when they have the time and opportunity to do it. In some situations they may need some help from you when they get into a situation they cannot solve themselves, like getting back to a laying position
or getting back into the middle of the crib instead of wedged into a corner. But as they practise and learn to perfect their new skill they will be able to help themselves and won’t need you to “help” them. For some skills that are just fun like sucking on their toes, you will need to just give it sometime and when they get bored of their new skill they will stop and go back to sleeping better.
In the meantime, when your baby hits a new milestone, be understanding of why their sleep may have regressed. Support them by practising their new skill in their wake time and if they get into a predicament, you can quickly offer minimal help to get them into a comfortable position. But most importantly be patient…this too shall pass!
As a professional dedicated to educating and supporting parents on how to care for their newborns, it infuriates me when products are pulled off the market because they are used incorrectly. There are so many products
that have been developed over the years to help parents with their babies and because our lack of educating parents on these products, they are used incorrectly and ultimately banned for sale or use because it was posing dangerous issues, injury or death. If we would just take some time to educate parents rather than assume they will figure it out on their own, these situations could have been prevented.
The newest target effecting new parents is swaddling. Are you
kidding me!! Do you realize what will happen if you they ban swaddling. Babies will have a harder time sleeping, parents will have a harder time soothing, postpartum depression will increase, the risk of SIDS and Shaken Baby Syndrome will increase. It angers me that rather than taking some time to teach proper swaddling techniques and the proper time to use swaddling, they just want to
take it away. When did our highly educated society become so against education? It saddens me that parents are left with little direction and support on caring for newborns and then we are the ones they blame.
Obviously I am an advocate for swaddling!
Yes, it does help babies sleep better because it reduces the startle reflex!
Yes, it does give parents a tool to help soothe and calm babies because it makes them feel safe and secure!
Yes, it decreases Postpartum Mood disorders because parents and
babies are sleeping better!
Yes, it decreases SIDS because parents are not tempted to place
babies on their belly to sleep or bed sharing!
Yes, it decreases Shaken Baby Syndrome because parents don’t
become frustrated when they can’t calm their baby!
However…and here’s your education portion for today…listen up
“leaders” who keep banning everything because they don’t want to spend the money on babies and parents!
1. Make sure to focus swaddling efforts on your babys arms and leave the legs and hips loose to accommodate for proper hip growth and development.
2. If you are using a blanket, make sure it is a 42x42 inch thin blanket that is secure and tucked around their body so that it does not get loose causing a suffocation hazard. Also be sure not to swaddle the head or face area.
3. It is preferred that parents use a product such as a Halo Swaddler or Woombie Swaddler which offers an easy swaddling system that will leave ample room for leg and hip growth and less room for swaddling errors.
4. Swaddling helps baby sleep better so it is important that parents do not let babies oversleep and miss feeds as this could cause baby to go into shock, be malnourished and reduce breastfeeding success. Babies should be fed regularly throughout the day without exceeding more than 2-3 hours between feeds in those early months.
5. Never place baby on their tummy to sleep…never place baby on their tummy to sleep while swaddled!
6. Do not over heat baby by placing them in too many layers. Diaper, Pj and swaddle is usually enough. Do not layer blankets or extra clothing on baby.
You can learn proper swaddling techniques through one of our
professional team members or at one of our NEW Babeez Ed Classes which is revolutionizing parenting by educating parents on newborn care topics before baby comes!
Stop banning and start educating!!!
Every time I think of the concept of “Attachment Parenting” my blood pressure boils. As a mom and a professional, I am so insulted and infuriated by this coined term. To label a parenting style in this manner means that any other style would mean “Unattached Parenting” and this notion is ridiculous.
I’m not here to bash Attachment Parenting because this is a parenting style that works for many families. However, it is
not always the best for every family, every child, every parent or every situation. The claims made that any other parenting style is
harming our children or breaking the bond between baby and parent or even worse, nurturing unattached and unconnected children who will grow up without empathy, caring, security or confidence is ludicrous.
Our society needs to understand that what might be right for one family is not right for the other. The “Attachment Parenting” world has such big views and big voices about their parenting style
but to make others feel terrible about the parenting style they choose, is unfair. As a mother, who had 3 children under 16 months (singleton and twins) and a husband who worked 14 hours a day with no support or finances to get support, there was no way I could possibly use the “Attachment Parenting” approaches suggested today. I was the ONLY care provider for my children and to baby-wear, breastfeed on demand, bed-share and try to get at least 3 hours of sleep per day were impossible. I needed to have a rigid schedule and routine to ensure that my children were fed, cleaned and healthy. Now does this mean, because I did this my children were not loved? Absolutely NOT! I was with my children all day, every day. We hugged and kissed all the time, we snuggled on the floor, we played together at home and at the park, we ate every meal together, we spent every waking moment together AND WE STILL DO! The bond between my daughters and I is so strong that I still have trouble cutting the apron strings as they grow older. However, when it was time to feed, they ate and when it was time to sleep, they slept in their own crib. I didn’t run to every cry because guess what, the other twin baby was crying and needed
my attention at that moment. Or the twins would cry and I was helping my toddler who was sick with fever. Or everyone was crying and I had to leave the room for a moment because I was crying too! I dare any person out there to tell me I was
a bad mother. I dare any person to challenge my bond, caring, nurturing and LOVE for my children. My oldest daughter is now 13 and my twins are 12. They are compassionate, kind, loving, intelligent, patient, generous and we still do things together every day.
I am so tired of hearing that “Attachment Parenting” is BEST for baby and is BEST for Mommy. I see clients every day feeling the exact same pressures I did to be the perfect mother. To be able to wear baby all day, sleep with baby all night and hold them in between. I see the anxiety, the depression and the feel of failure because they feel they are harming their baby and breaking the bond and risking raising a criminal because they need to sleep, they need their baby in their own crib, they need to eat but haven’t been able to because they have been holding baby for the last 6 months.
Attachment Parenting is NOT for everyone. Our society and the professionals and individuals out there pushing their parenting style down everyone’s throat is unfair and very judgemental. If you
are an Attachment Parent and this style is working for you and your family, this is wonderful! But please stop making your friend feel bad because she’s not. Stop posting mean comments on social media to families who chose to sleep train their child for whatever reason. You never know what kind of day someone is having and reading or hearing a comment about their parenting style could be
what pushes them over the edge.
The reason why this is such a hot topic is because it’s a debate. It has been a debate for the last 60 years and it will be a debate for the next 60 years. There is no 1 way to lose weight, there is no 1
way to bake a cake and there is no 1 way to parent a child.
I leave you with a final message. If you are a parent out their torn between how to parent your child, keep this in mind…
1. show love and compassion to your baby
2. Touch, hug and kiss your baby as often as possible every day for the rest of their life
3. Enjoy every waking moment with your baby spending quality time together
4. Encourage your baby to explore his world and learn skills that will help him grow and thrive as a young child and adult
5. Be present in your baby’s life through emotional, verbal and
These are the steps to successful parenting!
I call it the "Nurture Parenting" Approach!
Swaddling your baby is the simplest thing you can do to help your baby soothe and sleep easier. Many parents think their babies don’t like to be swaddled because they may fuss a bit while being swaddled or push on their swaddle thats tightly wrapped BUT once baby is secure and safely wrapped you will almost see him melt into a calmer quieter state. For 9 months your baby has been living in a tight, warm, dark, loud environment with constant movement. Of course, this would be the natural thing to do once he enters into this big, bright, cold world. Recreating his environment in our homes is taking advantage of the window of opportunity (The W.O.O.) to teach sleep skills with no crying. The problem with swaddling is most parents don’t know how to correctly swaddle OR they don’t know when to stop swaddling.
First, the old school blanket swaddle is being done away with since it causes more danger then it helps. Tired parents don’t’ have the patience to properly and safely swaddle their babies so I now encourage Swaddlers for babies instead. The ones that I recommend are the Woombie Swaddler, the Ergo Cocoon or the Halo Sleep Swaddler. All of these swaddlers not only provide a fast secure and easy swaddle that will keep baby wrapped for a longer time but they also offer convertible capabilities so that you can let your baby have one arm or both arms out when the need arises. These swaddlers provide a “no brainer” swaddle for tired parents.
Second, it’s important to understand when to stop swaddling. Some parents think that if their baby is busting out of the swaddle or growing out of the swaddle that it’s time to forgo it. But that’s
definitely not the case. The best time to start the process of unswaddling your baby is when you see them begin to roll over. Once they start having the skill of rolling, swaddling with arms in then becomes a danger as they won’t be able to use their arms to help lift their head should they roll onto their stomach. There should be approx. 4 inches between your babys feet and the bottom of the swaddler. If your baby does not have this leg room then it’s time to buy a larger swaddler BUT not time to stop swaddling as most parents quickly find out that their baby will struggle even more with sleep once they are unswaddled.
Once your baby is rolling over, you can then graduate them to a sleep sack which is a SAFE blanket, will help prevent legs from getting stuck in the crib slats and also will prevent your child from
lifting his leg high enough to climb out of the crib once he is standing.
For info on the swaddling and sleep sack products visit the links
Halo Sleep Swaddles and Sacks www.halosleep.com
Ergo Cocoon www.ergopouch.com
As a new mommy, proper sleep is one of those all illusive things that is so hard to get but hard to live without! Living on no or little sleep can make us feel sad, moody, irritable and frustrated and the less sleep we get, the higher chance of postpartum mood disorder. As a sleep consultant, I often focus on tips for helping baby sleep better but sometimes tips for the parents to sleep better can often help too!
Here are a few tips to make sure that Mommy and Daddy are getting better and more restorative sleep when they get the chance…even if it is for a short time!
1. Just as we encourage babies to be on a sleep schedule, the same is true for adults. Go to bed and wake up at the same time every day even on the weekends. Being consistent will reinforce your circadian clock and sleep-wake cycles and help you sleep better each night.
2. Try not to consume nicotine, alcohol or caffeine at least 3 hours prior to going to bed. Instead replace it with a warm chamomile or caffeine free warm beverage…warm milk can often help. Although you do want to limit your liquid intake to prevent frequent overnight trips to the bathroom.
3. Create a bedtime routine for yourself and be consistent. Be sure that it is a soothing routine like taking a warm bath or shower reading a book or listening to some relaxing music.
4. Sleep hygiene is very important. Conditioning your brain to
understand that the bed is for sleeping is a great way to learn to fall asleep quicker and easier. Limit stimulating activities such as watching TV, playing on a smart phone or ipad and even eating in bed as it can confuse the mind as to what we are supposed to do when we hit the pillow, making it harder for us to sleep.
5. Create a great sleep atmosphere.
-Your room should be dark to increase your natural sleep hormone melatonin
- Use of a white noise machine will help drown out sounds from your partner, the little squeaks and noises your new baby makes as well as any creaks your home may make. This will also help baby sleep better.
- Make sure you have a comfortable mattress, pillow and bedding so that your body can sleep in proper positioning and allow you to wake up feeling refreshed.
- Have your baby sleeping in a bassinet or playpen beside you
rather than in bed with you so that you can sleep deeper knowing he is safe in his own bed yet close enough that when he wakes you can feed him and place him back quickly.
- Have your pets sleep off the bed. Often our loving pets want to
be snuggled up right against us making it difficult for you to move around and get comfortable when you need to thus fully waking you from a sleep cycle to readjust.
6. Include physical activity in your daily routine specifically outside. This is healthy both physically and mentally and will not only help you sleep deeper but also reduce postpartum mood disorders. This is also a great for your baby. However be sure not exercise approximately 2 hours before bedtime as you may then be too energized to sleep.
7. Keep a notepad and pen by your bedside table. So if you wake in
the middle of the night thinking of things you have to remember to do the next morning you can write them down and forget it. This is also great for tracking your baby’s feeds so you don’t have to try and remember them the next day.
8. If you have gone to bed and feel like you cannot fall asleep eyt,
get up and do something. Then come back 20 minutes later and try and again! Sometimes although you feel tired, your body may just not be ready to fall asleep yet.
9. Turn off all phones and even put a sign on your door so that any visitors will not ring your door bell and wake you up once you do fall asleep.
10. You may want to enlist some help from a night doula or night nanny. This will help limit the disruptions overnight so that mommy can still feed her baby but the night doula or nanny will then be able to settle baby down in another room while mommy goes back to sleep. Or you can choose to pump and allow your helper or dad to offer it overnight so you can get a bit more
These are tips that both new moms and dads can use to help get better sleep once new baby comes. Funny enough, many of them
I would suggest for your baby too!
Parenting Coach and Sleep Consultant
Precious Moments Babeez
What can be more exciting then having a baby?
Having baby number 2!
I was so excited to be an expert on the hit Global Morning Show discussing tips for preparing yourself and your toddler for the new baby but due to the limit of time, I didn't have a chance to talk about all the tips so I thought I would post some more tips on how to prepare BEFORE baby comes.
1. Wash, fold and sort all your old baby clothes and then organize them by size in clear bins. Make sure to put a label on the front. This makes it easier for finding the size you need and putting things back when baby grows out of them. You can also do this with your generic items like baby towels, burp cloths, bibs and so on.
2. Make sure to have a second sleeping, feeding and changing station on the main floor so you are not carrying 2 kids up and down the stairs. You can purchase a playpen with changing area on top as well as a small plastic drawer system for extra diapers, PJ's, creams, blankets and burp cloths. Also, prepare a little basket with water and treats for you and your toddler, so when you sit down to feed your baby, you can both have a little snack. Keep this snack bin, where ever you feed your baby.
3. Start a job jar! All the tasks that you don't get done before baby comes can go in the job jar and when visitors come offering help, you can direct them to the job jar. Some tasks could simply be bringing your toddler to the park, walking the dog or cleaning out your junk drawer.
4. Invite friends to your house for a last rendezvous and cooking party to help make a stock pile of healthy food you can freeze for when baby comes. You can even book a private party at your local Supperworks!
Preparing Your Toddler!
1. If there are any big changes your toddler will need to make like moving into a different room or going from crib to bed, make sure you do these a few months before baby comes so he doesn't think he has to give up his room for the baby!
2. Buy your little one a doll and start to teach him about being gentle. Teach him how to change the diaper, how to feed baby and even talk to him about breastfeeding and crying so he isn't upset and confused once when baby comes. You can even purchase a little bathing kit so he can learn to wash his baby when you are washing yours.
3. Get a great "I'm a big brother" Book. Read it to him and encourage him that he is big brother. He can drink from a glass and sleep in his bed and he will have to help Mommy and Daddy teach baby how to do these things too.
4. If there are any skills you need to teach your toddler, like putting on his coat or tying his shoes, you may want to practice this now. This will help cut prep time when you are ready to take both kids on an outing.
5. Prepare a fun toy bin with some great toys that your little one may not get to play with often. Then have this bin available ONLY as the "baby time" bin. When mommy is feeding, changing or putting baby to sleep, your toddler will be excited to play with the toys in the bin that he usually doesn't get to play with.
6. Start playing some classical music in your toddlers room when he is sleeping. This will help prevent him from hearing your baby's cries and being woken up.
Scheduling and Time Management!
1. Make sure to have a family calendar where all the activities for the family are posted. Include play dates, nursery school, swimming lessons and so on. This will help ensure that your toddlers normal routine is not disrupted too much.
2. Be sure to have a babysitter on standy by to watch your toddler for when you go into labor. I know this may sound ridiculous, but many mommies forget with all the hustle and bustle and then have to scramble at the last minute.
3. Make sure to try and keep your toddlers "world" intact as much as you can. If he is currently in daycare, continue him in daycare at least a few days a week. If he currently has swimming lessons, make sure daddy or grandma can bring him to swimming lessons. This will make a huge difference if he sees that having anew baby doesn't mean he loses out.
4. Preplan some Mommy and Toddler time as well as Mommy and Daddy time. If its on the calendar, you are more likely to follow through. Preplan to do something alone with your toddler at least once a week (going to the park or an indoor playground). Plan some couple time at least once a month.
Lastly, don't be afraid to get help. As a mom of 2 or more children, you won't have as much down time so ask dad to take on a bit more, have grandma stay for a while or even hire a doula/night nanny/baby nurse from Precious Moments Babeez (wink wink).
Congratulations and enjoy!
It seems like just when you finally figure out your baby’s napping, it’s time to eliminate them. Although some children can still take a nap at 4 years old, most children are ready to lose their naps between 2.5 the 3.5 years of age. Parents really need to monitor the child’s sleep habits so they can see if eliminating their one nap a day is something their child could benefit from.
Here are a few signs that could indicate your child is ready to stop napping in the day.
1. Does he resist nap time
2. If he misses nap time does he fall asleep better at bedtime and seem more settled overnight
3. If he has a good nap does he resist bedtime
4. If he has a good nap does he seem more restless overnight
If you have answered yes to any of these questions it may be time for your child to no longer nap in the daytime. Although this may make many moms out there upset as this is when many of our chores get done, it’s the inevitable that is going to come. It’s better
to skip the nap and have your child have a great overnight sleep then to force a nap and find that he struggles overnight. If you are concerned about taking the nap away all together, you may decide to just limit the length of the nap perhaps by reducing it by half an hour each week or two until it’s gone.
Keep in mind that every child is different. Even within the same family, one sibling may have lost their nap at 2 whereas the second sibling still needs it. Try to watch your child’s cues and let his body tell you when it’s time to start limiting or removing his daytime napping. Regardless, if daytime napping is a thing of the past, just
think about the extra 2 hours a day you will have making memories with your child!
Certified Sleep Consultant
Fazio Family Favorite!
2 large spaghetti squash will usually serve 4-6 people
-Wash the outside of your squash
-Cut them in half
-Scoop and clean the inside seeds and loose flesh
-You can choose to boil in salted water or bake in the oven until the inside flesh is soft
-Then using a fork scrape out the inside onto a plate, the inside will come out as strands and look like spaghetti
-Top with your favorite sauce!
Fazio Home made Authentic Italian Pasta Sauce
(Makes enough sauce for 2-3 times)
Put all ingredients in your crock pot for 4-5 hours stirring regularly
-1/2 chopped onion
-2 tbspns chopped garlic (jar garlic is fine)
-1 tbspn of bouillon powder (secret in the recipe for taste)
-1/2 diced red pepper
-4 glass jars of strained tomato
-salt and pepper to taste
Optional: Hot pepper if you like spice
raw meatballs (mini meatballs are kids favorites)
This is a great place to ask your questions. Anything from prenatal to preschool. From feeding to sleeping...ask away!