I often envy new moms these days for all the amazing products, services and resources that are available to them and specifically how easy it is to obtain these in our modern technical world.
Imagine, only 13 years ago when my first daughter was born, we were one of the first of our friends who got dial-up internet! But I’m now starting to realize that moms these days are at a bit of a disadvantage because of this modern technology and by how quickly information, advice and comments can be spread
around the world. A message that used to take years to get across, now takes hours! Results from scientific studies done on every topic from swaddling and breastfeeding to co-sleeping and sleep training are published on a regular basis and through the power of the world-wide-web, moms are bombarded with these studies and the horrific effects it has or doesn’t have on their babies:
“swaddle your baby, it helps them sleep better”
"don’t swaddle your baby, its leads to SIDS”
“co-sleep with your baby, it gives him security”
“don’t co-sleep with your baby, it will give him independence"
and my personal favorite “don’t sleep train your baby, he will lose trust in you, he will not love you, he will lose brain cells!”
It’s no wonder that moms these days are at a higher risk for postpartum depression than ever before. They are bombarded with
conflicting information on what to do to offer the best care for their baby and child. Not only are they getting this from family and friends but now from strangers on Facebook, Twitter, the media, books and even scientists.
Over the last 15 years, they have made so many changes as to what is “the best” way to put your baby to sleep, “the best time to start solids, “the best” time to introduce cows milk, “the best” time to move baby into his own crib and so forth. The changes have been made so often, that parents are lost with what is the right thing to do. Parents with children the same age will chat for 20 minutes about their babies and realize that they have been told to do things so differently. It seems that even the professionals are confused!
My message here is “STOP THE MADNESS!”
Stop listening to and making judgemental and hurtful comments!
Stop forcing your beliefs on people!
Stop letting people force their beliefs on you!
Stop trying to be the perfect parent in the public eye!
Be the best parent you can be in your baby’s eyes!
You know your baby best! You know your family best! You know you best!
I’m not saying parents shouldn’t research and educate themselves about their new baby, but it’s important they take everything they have read and learned with a grain of salt and develop a plan that works for their family! As long as you are parenting from your heart with love, compassion and understanding, you WILL be the best parent and that’s all that matters!
Please…Stop the madness!
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